Rabbi Anne Bussard
Remember . . .
Religion and culture are often deeply intertwined and difficult to separate.
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It is possible to integrate different religious and cultural backgrounds.
Things to consider . . .
What rituals and traditions did you grow up with and how important are these to you and your new family?
What are your individual religious and/or cultural beliefs and what is your commitment to these?
Whare areas are negotiable? Which ones are non-negotiable?
Attend each other's religious services to better understand your partner's religion and demonstrate acceptance.
Will you have a Jewish or Christian home or a combination of both faith traditions?
How will you raise your children?
How much will you teach your children about your religious and cultural beliefs?
What religious holidays will you celebrate, where, and how?
How do your respective parents feel about your interfaith relationship?
And, of course, these considerations are always important!
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Effective communication
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Resolving differences with understanding and respect
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Talking about emotional and physical intimacy, wants, and needs
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Celebrating similarities and honoring differences
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Clarifying values and establishing priorities
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Compromise!
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Understanding and identifying your expectations about:
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family relationships
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life cycle events
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food traditions
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financial concerns and issues
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child rearing and parenting philosophies
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basic lifestyle choices
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gender roles
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